April 24
...serving up your daily dish.
The Barista is giving a speech in a few weeks about Women in New Jersey and needs some statistical stuff to go in it. True, there's already serious demographic analysis on the web. But we have some questions the US Census didn't think of. Yes we know that on the internet, nobody knows you're a dog, but we're hoping the pink type will deter the guys from answering.
April 24, 2005 in Barista's Sunday Poll, Help Your Barista! | Permalink
Regarding the question about women having it all...
As 30 year old mom who runs a design studio from my home while raising my daughter I think I hear more and more that the defintion of 'All' is different for every woman.
I have it all because I've found a creative way to balance work and family. My friend has it all because to her 'all' means being a happy full time stay at home mom. Then again, there is a woman on my block who has it all because she works out of the home and has someone who is can trust to watch her two girls.
3 women with different lifestyles yet for ourselves we have it All.
-Dani
Posted by: Dani | Apr 24, 2005 12:37:34 PM
As a lesbian who wears men's clothes, sports a buzz cut, has a beautiful girly girlfriend, and has no societal pressures to marry or have children, etc...I find that I too have it "all."
Unfortunately I do often diet...I guess even dykes cant escape!
Posted by: butchcjg | Apr 24, 2005 12:45:24 PM
As a person with a sexually ambiguous first name who wears men's clothes, sports a buzz cut, has a beautiful girly wife, and has no societal pressures to divorce or have children, etc...I find that I too have it "all" -- but not the same "all" that you women do.
I don't diet, but I lost 10 pounds within the past year.
Posted by: Chris | Apr 24, 2005 2:08:33 PM
I'm happy not having nearly it "all" at all. Wanting to have it "all" is just another type of gluttony.
Posted by: Right of Center | Apr 24, 2005 2:15:14 PM
As a hetero woman who has a ruggedly handsome boyfriend, a decent job, good health (praise God), a nice fmaily and great friends, I consider myself to have it all, too. And, all this without children. Who'da thunk?
:-)
Posted by: Miss Martta | Apr 24, 2005 4:33:51 PM
ROC, if you're happy not having nearly it "all" at all, then you've got it all.
Posted by: Chris | Apr 24, 2005 4:46:17 PM
Well, if you want what you have instead of having what you want, then you definitely have it all.
Posted by: Alison Meyer | Apr 24, 2005 4:56:51 PM
This single (divorced) professional mom wants a definition of having it all.
Does that include 7hrs of uninterrupted sleep every night? A balanced checkbook? No monthly financial stress? A little bit of flextime at work once in a while?
I don't think these things qualify as "having it all." These are the bare minimum. Having it all...must be a pipe dream that one reads about it some women's magazine--which I get to read 2x a year at the dentist's office.
The phrase having it all makes me cranky. (But Debbie, you go gurl.)
Posted by: textwoman | Apr 25, 2005 2:16:03 AM
(As 30 year old mom who runs a design studio from my home while raising my daughter I think I hear more and more that the defintion of 'All' is different for every woman.)
Exactly... the point is that women today have more choices than our mothers and grandmothers did.
Doesn't mean the choices are necessarily easy or satisfying... but there are choices.
Posted by: Pam | Apr 25, 2005 7:19:44 AM
